The Sweetness of Life

Over my posting hiatus I dedicated my time to reflecting on my life’s experiences, wrote fiercely, and had the opportunity to perform in shows that aligned with my core beliefs as a queer black femme dedicated to the liberation from oppressive systems. I was literally riding this high celebrating when I was attacked and violated by a stranger. The days and now weeks that have followed since this incident have tested my abilities that I have written about in the past : loving myself and my spirituality. In the wake of the trauma I was cared for by the women and femme folk that I am blessed to call my community. This experience has inspired me to write again in a public space about the transformative power of love, survival and sisterhood.

I woke up completely sore trying to shake the feeling of a night terror that clings on after sleep. Without moving I looked at the disheveled state of my room, house then down at my body that confirmed what I had feared to be true. Still in shock, I reached out to two of my close friends one of which before leaving the club we were at the night before told me to let her know when I had made it home safe, which was not the case. At some point in my drunkness I accidentally called two more of my friends, one who called me the next day and I told her what happened. I am extremely thankful at how quickly everyone moved into action to guide me into a recovery process that I am currently still undergoing.

Over the next two weeks I spent time sharing living spaces with friends as I still felt unsafe in my apartment. Among themselves they organized their availability to when they could be present with me when I was fearful of being alone. Each friend I stayed with and supported me during this time poured their loving energy into me as I began this new phase of my healing journey. They each passed along to me essentials for thriving through healing that I had forgotten in the wake of the most recent incident.  

Natasha and Ebony reminded me of the importance and simplicity of self care and spiritual balance. They both had their own unique takeNatasha reminded me to trust and return to my body through affirmations like ‘my body is doing what it knows to keep itself safe’, taking me to the hospital, and pushing me to take time to sit and rest. Ebony reminded me the importance of my connection to nature by going on walks and spending time with me in the park. The warmth of Shaketa and Zoe’s support reminded me of the feelings of my family that I longed so much for that is absent in my life and restored that love inside of me. Jayden restored my hope of my future self, that the care I dedicate now does extend to the me of tomorrow and thereafter. Eve and Rachel reminded me that coping can be unorthodox even messy, but writing will always be healing.

‘my body is doing what it knows to keep itself safe’

So many more of my dear friends imparted their love,wisdom and magic  that has nourished my soul. They all collective came together at my home to celebrate my twenty fifth solar return. With sage, paleo santo, candles we set intentions and reclaimed my space. Before bed that night I did a separate ritual where I reflected on my life’s course. I can honestly say I love my life.I cherish the experiences I have had and am excited for my future.

Coming forward with this new chapter of my story is a struggle. Grappling with flashbacks, triggers and unhealthy habits is harder than I remembered. I get angry and frustrated with myself for not progressing at a rate I aspire to in my mind. But each day I have to accept the fact that these wounds are fresh and new – I have to be gentle with myself.

If any of this resonates with you- if you are overcoming a trauma, a hardship of any form let me remind you of this: patience is key on this journey.

Love and self compassion will restore and recharge you continually.

When fear feels larger than life itself, shrink it by connecting with someone who genuinely cares for and loves you.

You are not alone in your battle for reclaiming your birthright of a peaceful liberated life. I hope my posts will remind you of this as I recount pieces of my own journey.

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#AroundLA: Sladderday Sip & Shop: Hosted by @ShopRhondaJane X @RebelliousWears! [AUG 12]


Come Sip & Shop with Rhonda Jane & The Stylish Rebel, Vanessa Vaz, at our studio office space in the heart of the Downtown Los Angeles Fashion District!!! 

When: SAT AUG 12th

Time: 3-6pm

Where: 711 E 9th Place, Los Angeles, CA 90021 (call/text Rhonda or Vanessa for suite #)!!!
There will be 420 chic clothing & accessories available for BOTH the ladies and the fellas cc: @shoprhondajane @halfbakedboys & a bunch of amazing vegan make up accessories for sale by @rebelliouswears!!! 


Special discounts & *EXCLUSIVE* giveaways will be available for our first few arrivals!  Bottomless Mimosas, Sangria and Beer will also be available while supplies last! 🍹🦄✨💄🎨 


Please let the ladies know your coming by following the brands on Instagram!!! 👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽 @shoprhondajane @halfbakedboys @rebelliouswears 

RSVP here: Sladderday Sip & Shop: Rhonda Jane X Rebellious Wears [SAT AUG 12th]

Flagrant City Spotlight: Convos w/ Friends by Produced By Girls [SHORT FILM]

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Nowadays it seems more and more people are discovering they suffer from depression. Though it may seem common, it doesn’t make the condition any easier to deal with and power through. Creatives, innovators and visionaries always seem to be victims of depression, and most use the void as a means of inspiration. This is precisely what Elyse Fox has done in her short film entitled ‘Convos with Friends’. In the film, Fox shows how friendship, music, and travel aide her in fighting her demons so she can continue to bring necessary art to her viewers.

You can watch the short film below.

Conversations with Friends. from Elyse Fox on Vimeo.

And read a few words from the creator herself below:

“New year, cooler tings! Thank you all for viewing/sharing #ConvosWithFriends. We’re so excited about the conversation the film has ignited. With the release of the film many amazing women have been reaching out for advice/answers regarding life, womanhood, depression (etc) We want to create a place where we can discuss freely and anonymously. PBG presents ‘Sad Girls Club’ email sgc@producedbygirls.com to chat with us XO<3″

Don’t forget to follow her on IG

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#AroundAtlanta: Join @gccexperience for #M31 Millennials 31 Conference! [Aug 3rd- Aug 31st]

Join Pastor Matthew L. Brown and the Greater Community COGIC family the entire month of August for their Millennial 31 (M31) Conference which will offer a different millennial themed activity weekly!!!  31 Days of Intentional Millennial Activities & Events, Health & Wellness & Worship with an itinerary with something for everyone!



Be sure to follow them on Social Media for frequent updates and special announcements!

Facebook.com/GreaterCommunityCOGIC

Twitter.com/GCCExperience

Instagram.com/GCCExperience

Week 1: August 1st-6th #SociallyAwareMillennials

Aug 3rd – #Back2School

Aug 6th – Greater Community Cogic Wellness Weekend | 5k Walk

Aug 7th – Prayer Walk 7am! Blood drive 8am!  Speaker Ki’Yonna Jones 8am!  With special guest Tika Sumpter at 11am!

Week 2: August 8th-13th #HealthyMillennials

Week 3: August 14th-20th #EntrepreneurialMillennials

Week 4: August 22nd-28th #WorshippingMillennials

Sign up to receive updates by texting @teamm31 to 81010!

As more information becomes available, it will be provided and updated here!

#AroundBuffaLowe: Summer Scholars, Inc presents Family Crafts & Fitness in the Park! [8.6.16]

Around Buffalo, NY on Saturday, August 6th, 2016 join Summer Scholars, Inc. for their second launch event, “Family Crafts and Fitness in the Park”!!!!!

This event will be held on Saturday, August 6th from 12pm to 4:30pm at The Cheektowaga Town Park, Shelter 10! Come enjoy some nutritious snacks, make some fun crafts, play games and get  in a great workout!


Workouts will begin everything 30 minutes and will feature local fitness gurus: Zumba with Can Marie, Get Up and Get Active with LA Movement , Pound with TtheTrainer, Hot dance moves with “Back by Popular Demand” and so much more!!!

Can Marie Zumba – Photo courtesy of Facebook
Lala Woods of LA’Movement – Photo image courtesy of Facebook

Children ages 3 and up may participate for FREE! All children must be accompanied by an adult!

The first 20 kids registered get a free Summer Scholars grab bag!!!!

Please register your family here: https://familyfuninthepark.eventbrite.com/

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#AroundBuffaLowe: Justice & Opportunity Week presented by Open Buffalo! [7.18-7.22]

As promised by Venezia Appleby, Board Member at Just Buffalo Literary Center, earlier this week she provided some great details for next week’s Justice & Opportunity Event in Buffalo, NY!

“A week full of thoughtful and empowering programming from July 18th through July 22nd, closing out with Poetic Justice on July 22nd! This event will be creating a space in Masten Park to honor one another through self-expression. We will be graced by the talents of some of the most authentic and wholehearted people in our community. In addition to that, Buffalo music-legend, Rodney Appleby, will be in town and has agreed to make an appearance to perform a couple of original pieces along with us. Please come, witness, share stories, and uplift one another for this evening of healing and creativity!” – Just Buffalo Board Member, Venezia Appleby

#AroundBuffaLowe: Power Up! FREE Lunch Program @ New Beginnings [7.11-8.5.16]


Come out to New Beginnings COGIC located at 828 Genesee Street in my hometown of Buffalo, NY!  Here you can receive Free lunch for your school aged children (under the ages of 18)!  No enrollment or signup necessary!!!

The program runs from Monday, July 11th through August 5th, 2016!  Free lunch is available Monday through Friday between 12-1pm!

Please call 716-853-6071 for more information!