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 Reclaiming My Time 

I’m sitting with and processing emotions from interactions I’ve had over the past week. This has been forcing me to acknowledge my social conditioning : how I default in handling situations and the result that has on myself.

I was raised heavily in Assimilation Culture and by Respectability Politics: that if I did mind my manners, speak properly, tamed my hair- then white people would not be an issue, and if they were, to avoid Any confrontation. I’ve never witnessed my parents prioritizing their Blackness over whiteness. Without noticing, I began doing the same as I’ve gotten older- that is until recently.

In the past year I’ve been spending more time in Black and Brown only spaces, spaces that center Blackness and organizing with People of Color collectives. In these spaces I’ve realized my conditioning and how it stems from systematic self preservation tactics pasted on generationally. Returning to work in a predominately white space has triggered how I see myself, my Blackness in reference to how I handle whiteness.

I didn’t realize the problem I had with prioritizing whiteness until fellow organizer and friend brought it to my attention in the wake of Charlottesville both in a conversation we had on it and later in an important piece on this topic.*

I was telling her how I was avoiding going to places because I didn’t want to talk with white people about what had recently happened. She shifted the conversation and my view from avoidance to standing in myself and simultaneously refusing to talk about matters that made me uncomfortable.

Friday I remembered her words after enduring a rant at work from a white man on Charlottesville, how it was staged, the manufacturing of a race war and how now isn’t the time to worry about race. Despite my attempts to end the conversation it didn’t stop until my boss intervened. I felt at the end of it exhausted from listening to him, exhausted from his entitlement to my time, and his ignorance of his privilege that has resulted in so much violence.

As a Black American womxn, I felt insulted and triggered by his reduction of over 400 years of oppression and violence to singular moments of eruption of race relations when white supremacy feels threatened by our fight for liberation.

I noticed in this moment how it felt to let my identity come second in an interaction that:
1. Did not need to be had,

2. Would not reflect negatively on my job performance, had I centered myself

3. Would be more loving/ honoring to myself to center my identity.

White people have created and we’re raised in a society that has always put their ideas first, gave themselves room to be expressive without judgment which in turn resulted in them believing that they can encounter any interaction in that way. Where as Black and Brown people were not, we have always made space for whiteness.

Now, however is optimal time to enact Auntie Maxine Waters words and Reclaim Our Time.

I urge all my Black, Brown and all intersecting identities to stop, give yourself space and reclaim your time in the face of whiteness- supremacy and toxic masculinity.
Stop yourself in interactions ask ‘ am I prioritizing self or whiteness?’ – if the latter, reclaim that time.

To futher quote her words in the Just Resisting post “Are we actively in this moment, joining and working to build a world we want to live in? A world that centers us? Are we engaging in the work that prepares us for what we’re so obviously up against?”

End that respectability/ assimilation mindset and reclaim your unapologetic Blackness : in your interactions, in demanding our rights, justice and the continued fight for liberation.
I’m still working on this – from my organizing to my own personal experiences and my hope is for you to do the same.

*Please read the rest of Just Resisting’s Post and if in the Buffalo area be sure to check out JR’s Political Education Kickoff!on the 21st!

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#AroundLA: More Juice- The LIT List [JAN 21st]

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Are you tired of doing the same shit every year? Been working at your craft tirelessly but feel like you’re still missing some key components? Or maybe you’re just looking to network and build your social circle? Meet people that share your mindset and passions.  No one makes it on their own. You need a team to succeed. So take a step towards finding your tribe and join us next Saturday for a Lit-uation you’re sure not to regret. Tell your friends! And let’s help each other progress. It’s only $10 to partake and juice will be flowing from 2-6pm!

More Juice; Because blessings come in connections

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Introducing Charlotte Tobias, the Mad Princess

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What is up Flagrant City Fam? Allow me to introduce myself.  My name is Charlotte but you can call me Lotti aka the Mad Princess.  I come to you all from the East Coast, starting in New York and making my way through the South until I finally ventured out to California.  My mother’s love of traveling when I was younger has stuck with me, and is probably the reason why I moved to LA. There’s so much to do in this city!  In addition to a variety of experiences, LA also hosts an assortment of flavors and ideas making their way into the world every day.  But a lot of happening scenes can get lost in the flood of social media.  So it’s my hope that I can bring you all some great events where you can experience amazing art and better company.  I hope you’ll join me as I assist Lowe down the path less traveled, and when you’re not listening to our fire tunes be sure to check out my blog!

Spread love, it’s the Brooklyn way.

The Mad Princess

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#AroundBuffaLowe: Justice & Opportunity Week presented by Open Buffalo! [7.18-7.22]

As promised by Venezia Appleby, Board Member at Just Buffalo Literary Center, earlier this week she provided some great details for next week’s Justice & Opportunity Event in Buffalo, NY!

“A week full of thoughtful and empowering programming from July 18th through July 22nd, closing out with Poetic Justice on July 22nd! This event will be creating a space in Masten Park to honor one another through self-expression. We will be graced by the talents of some of the most authentic and wholehearted people in our community. In addition to that, Buffalo music-legend, Rodney Appleby, will be in town and has agreed to make an appearance to perform a couple of original pieces along with us. Please come, witness, share stories, and uplift one another for this evening of healing and creativity!” – Just Buffalo Board Member, Venezia Appleby

#AroundBuffaLowe: The LIT Lab by Akidemics, Inc!

The Leaders In Training are getting down to business, literally!  The LIT Lab is a video game lab for youth ages 10+ and rentals are inclusive (decoration, food, themes & more).  From sports themes to Wii parties, they can do it all!  Every party booked keeps a teenager employed and doing great things. Book your party with them today!! ‪#‎GetLIT‬

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School is out and it’s Summertime and if your tweens and teens are looking for something to do, send them over to the Delavan Grider Community Center from 6-8pm or book their next party at The LIT Lab TM for some video game fun!!!

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